To speak of sexuality in terms of consciousness means finally making it an integral part of our individual and social life: it implies placing it at the center of the human being, in terms of quality and not quantity, for a thriving well-being of body, mind, and spirit.
It means giving importance and meaning to individual desires, fantasies, needs, and considering that sexuality does not exclusively involve the body, but also our emotions, our soul, our past, and all the sensations that are part of every sexual encounter, even purely casual ones.
This becomes particularly relevant given our society’s obsession with sex; one might think there is already too much of it, but beware: as Freud says, we obsessively show what we do not fully possess or what we do not have available to us.
It is a fascinating subject, full of nuances, but above all, exquisitely, wonderfully, extraordinarily human. Allow yourself to be taken by the hand and follow me beneath the surface—a whole world awaits us.
Why is sexuality important?
Sexuality is more important than we might think: it reverberates in every aspect of our daily life as an integral part of who we are. Sexuality represents life. Because what we seek in sexuality is not just bodily satisfaction, but also to be seen, desired, and connected to our deepest desires. When you feel sexually satisfied, it is very likely that you perceive your entire life as satisfying; conversely, when you are not, everything else may suffer from that dissatisfaction.
Being able to fully access sexual energy (which is first and foremost life energy) in a healthy way radiates well-being from deep within; it is no coincidence that people who have a flourishing sexuality (and by this, I do not mean that they engage in much sexual activity) are joyful, creative, sociable, and full of life.
Sexuality is not only about what we do between the sheets, but also what relationship we have with our genitals, how we feel our body, whether or not we feel at ease with a person, how we relate to others, how we cook, how we talk—even how we think about the planet.
The context in which we live
Yet the context in which we are immersed leads us to have a completely distorted idea of the sphere of intimacy: we pay the price for a severe lack of education on sexuality and affection (although things are fortunately slowly changing) and we navigate in the dark, without tools, lacking serenity, without knowing what it means to have a flourishing sexuality, lost between moralism on one side and pressing sexual consumerism on the other.
We are at the mercy of clichés, false myths, or even strongly toxic concepts deriving from the patriarchal culture with which our society is still unfortunately steeped.
There is an exasperated focus on doing rather than on feeling.
We feel inadequate because we think we must conform to certain standards, when in reality, the concept of normality does not exist in any aspect of our lives: things are simply more or less common, more or less widespread. Everyone should be free to live their sexuality in the way they perceive it to be most nourishing and beautiful, and always in a context based on mutual consent.
The Opportunity for a Growth Path
We are diverse and we are complex: sexuality is complex. The current societal tendency is to seek easy and possibly quick solutions. We can try to avoid complexity and attempt to live a sexuality without feelings, personality, or repercussions. But it is very likely that every attempt to deny its layers full of meaning will come back to haunt us. It is important to realize how vast the world of sexuality is and our potential capacity to feel infinite nuances; it is fundamental to allow ourselves to be who we are, without compromising, 100% faithful to what we feel inside.
Here is how sexuality can be the occasion, the trigger, the push for a path of personal and spiritual growth: understanding how to live a flourishing sexuality is first and foremost an internal journey, a discovery of ourselves, of what we truly desire deep down, without masks or veils, and of the resistances, learned defense mechanisms, and barriers we erect that limit pleasure instead of expanding it.
My support as a psychosomatic sexual educator
In this journey, psychosomatic sexual education helps people expand their capacity to live life in the deepest and most conscious way possible and to enjoy a conscious sexuality by working on the body, mind, and spirit.
On the physical level, I support people in learning how to enter deeply into contact with their own body, I teach new ways of touching, how to negotiate desires, genital anatomy, and many other things about sexuality that lead people to feel increasingly alive.
On the mental level, it is possible to develop more awareness and presence during sexual exchanges, experimenting with the conscious placement of attention and learning to recognize incorrect habits and patterns.
On the spiritual level, I support people in recognizing, welcoming, and exploring our most authentic desires without any judgment (because everything that is judged is magnified, fueled by repressed energies, while everything that is explored and lived with awareness leads to integration and knowledge) and, above all, to honor ourselves through conscious consent.
Living a conscious, flourishing, fulfilling sexuality is possible. There are no limits of age, identity or sexual orientation, nor physical condition. Contact me if you feel the desire for a discussion on these topics or subscribe to my newsletter to stay updated on these issues and the initiatives I promote.
May you make your life energy flourish in all its splendor!